In the right amounts, fear and anxiety are necessary for survival, but in excess, they become one of the many toxic emotions that can harm and prevent you from being happy.
There is a term used in psychology and personal development. We talk about “toxicity” and that people, emotions, and behavior can be toxic. This usually does not allow you to be happy.
There are no “toxic” people. Some people just do not know how to build healthy, good relationships in which there will be respect for each other.
Similarly, when we talk about toxic emotions, we are talking about emotions that cause pain. They are an obstacle to our happiness and a barrier between us and a bright future. Then they prevent us from having strong mental health.
Thus, the word “toxic” has no scientific basis. However, it is a useful illustration of what we are trying to convey. It is a dysfunctional behavior that causes pain, unhappiness, and ill-health.
The basic feelings that affect personal balance and the ability to have a happy and healthy lifestyle
1. Shyness prevents you from being happy
It is said that over time, people become less shy. However, in reality, things only get worse until they reach a level you could never have imagined. Shy begins to affect almost every area of your life.
There are many kinds of shyness: to be ashamed to be yourself; wear certain types of clothing; saying someone what you like; ask questions; trust someone; be vulnerable etc.
There are indeed rules and restrictions on social relations and everyday behavior. These are boundaries that do not cross for moral reasons, politeness, and so on.
However, when it comes to personal development, shying often limits your personality and integrity.
Shyness is associated with fear and insecurity. So, a good idea would be to understand what you don’t like about yourself or what makes you feel uncomfortable to work on.
2. Anxiety, one of the most dangerous toxic emotions
Anxiety is toxic when it overwhelms you and crosses the line.
When you feel a constant threat, stress that doesn’t go away, or anxiety that eats you up, that’s how toxic it is. In other words, it becomes a negative emotion that harms you.
Constant anxiety does not give an incentive to be better. In fact, it only hinders you. It makes you feel tired, overwhelmed, and unable to concentrate.
Suffering is a time bomb. After all, it consists of many negative things: fear, a feeling of danger, negativity, uncertainty, frustration, pain.
No one can live in suffering forever. It is a rejection of life, a denial of the possibility of being free, happy, and whole as a person.
4. Constant dissatisfaction
Sometimes dissatisfaction can be a powerful engine that pushes you to change, rise, improve yourself.
However, when dissatisfaction is chronic and does not act as an engine, it is a disease that destroys everything.
Eventually, you will lose all enthusiasm, energy, and motivation. You will stop smiling. If the dissatisfaction is chronic, you may actually be experiencing some form of depression.
Envy is not right or healthy. Also, if you feel it all the time, your self-esteem will decrease.
Envy leads you on the path of suffering. Wanting what is not yours or what you cannot get is bad and not good for your mental health.
If you can’t rejoice in other people’s successes or respect and celebrate their achievements, that says a lot about you.
You must learn to respect yourself, love yourself, and be happy for others.
6. Constant fear
If we were looking for a simple definition of unhappiness, it would be “freedom from fear”.
We know that fear has a purpose: it is necessary for survival and warns you of danger.
But what about when you are scared of absolutely everything? When do you feel that everything will go wrong and that you will be criticized, quarreled, and discussed? In this case, you take away your opportunity to be happy.
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